Day Fifteen

Hardest day so by far today out of everything I've done. The task was to ask 30 girls minimum to go for a coffee with you. The catch being that even if they said yes, you couldn't go and if you got their number you had to delete it straight after speaking to them. Today was not about stocking up on girls it was purely about asking them for coffee. It sounds so simple, doesn't it? I decided to go to Central London for this one as I don't want to be standing people up in a town the size of mine, people here tend to stay here and unlike London you can often see the same people pretty regularly and everyone seems to loosely know everyone.

Well the 2 hour max rule that has been set throughout this course I broke today for the first time... Only by a little *cough*2 hours!*cough* Seriously at the start I forgot I had any balls. It took me 40 minutes before I plucked up the courage to ask the first woman and was spending about 10 minutes at least between each one at the beginning. For the first two hours I think I managed to ask about 8 people! I was seriously getting stuck in my head and worked up over it. After stressing out and completing my little circuit for the 100th time I decided to head down to Covent Garden. I sat down for 5 minutes with a Ribena and tried some tapping (www.innergametapping.com) and some nlp/self hypnosis technique I learned from Richard Bandler. This was all well and good and I brought the time down to about 5 minutes between women. The only problem I noticed here was that as it was getting later the amount of single women was thinning greatly. It got to a point where I would have to wait ages for one to turn up and then would bottle it as I'd had too much time to think about it since the last one. When I got to a higher concentrated area I managed to ask like 5 girls in quick succession, maybe one per minute. It's worth noting here my frame was weak and everyone was saying no. There were a few pondering smiles that I'm sure I could have pushed a little further but was just too frickin scared to try. Showing direct interest before I know someone likes me has often been a problem for me and you can't really disguise asking someone for coffee as anything else. About 3 hours in I started to relax into it but there was a serious lack of single women and I was not about to approach a group in my current state. One girl seemed to have a mental battle "I don't know, I mean do you just stop people in the street to ask if they want to go for coffee?" I was on the spot me:"Why not?" her:"Oh I don't know" me getting conscious I couldn't go for coffee anyway:"Well hey, I better be going soon anyway, it was a pleasure meeting you". We smiled and parted ways. The last hour was torturous, I would never have thought it so hard to find an attractive single woman in the streets of a city as big as London but it was. Finally just over 4 hours later with 2 fresh blisters a slight limp and suffering from both mental and physical exhaustion I asked the last girl who responded with a "Not right now, no". I slumped onto my train home and began to listen to my task for the next day.

"Today is a lot simpler"
(Thank fcuk)
"You are going to do the exact same thing..."
(At this point my ipod batteries cut out and I broke into hysterical laughter to the amusement and worry of my fellow passengers)

One thing I noticed today is that whether you have a positive or negative voice in your head it's all rubbish when you come down to it. The thing that makes the difference between failure and success is your inner drive and that presence that pushes you forward past the internal dialogue at the moment of truth to think on your feet. To live in the moment regardless of what outcomes you can imagine.

P.S. Reading back through this makes it sound so simple. I guess that's because it is but I was in a whole other world when I started doing this that you wouldn't understand unless you've experienced it.